Start Christian dating after divorce tips

Christian dating after divorce tips

So, instead of preparing ourselves for marriage, we actually prepared ourselves, practically speaking, to walk from marriage. Have you ever heard a wife mourn that her husband didn’t date more people?

We cultivated love emotionally and exclusively, learned specifically how to love each other practically, and then we walked away.

And then started the whole process over with someone else. Have you ever heard a husband openly celebrate his wife’s past dating relationships?

But we don’t prepare ourselves for true, lifelong romance by experimenting with lesser, short-term romance.

We prepare ourselves for deeper, fuller, longer-lasting romance by becoming more like Christ.

The relationships are real relationships, and the people are (most likely) someone else’s future husband or wife.

A dating relationship is a marriage covenant, but the spiritual and emotional stakes are still high.

For example, far better than experimenting with romance and intimacy for ourselves would be to spend lots of time with marriages we respect and admire.

Instead of “studying” for marriage by only giving ourselves away to other lovesick single people, we give ourselves to observing real-life, faithful, and happy husbands and wives.

Again, dating is primarily pursuit, not preparation. Like other experiences in life, dating will prepare and mature us in one way or another, but we don’t date in order to prepare ourselves for someone else.

God prepares us for marriage in a thousand other ways that are not spring-loaded with the risks, obstacles, and difficulties of dating.

God meant for us to experience them with one person, within the safety and intimacy of a promise — within a marriage.